Time flies, from just lying on his back, to flipping, to trying to crawl, he is now seated on his very own high chair, and about to have his first taste of solids. For a six month old, that is a big deal since he has been swallowing liquid only so far... Theodore loves to eat. However much I fed him, he will want more. The pd said only 1/2 teaspoon for a start... it has been a conflict in my mind since TD obviously can stomach more. So slowly day by day, as long as there is no sign of allergy, I give him a teaspoon more.
I have been reading the internet on how much to feed. Some say not more than a teaspoon as the main nutrition is still milk. I found a website that says 4-5 tablespoons, or feed as much as you want. I guess thats the point with baby led weaning? Anyhow, still trying to find the right balance. Will speak with pd end of the month to understand better.
At the dinning table, I am questioned by the in-laws. 1 teaspoon only? 1 teaspoon only? Feed slower, so that he can enjoy each scoop; Put in more water so he doesnt have to tilt his back so much. As I introduce water to TD, I said "Water, water" and I hear him trying to pronounce it. MIL nervously and quickly said "Drink water, drink water"... "Theodore drink water"..(hello the grammer is wrong)... My every move is being corrected. I have put in a lot of effort since TD was born..yet I feel MIL trying to show me that everything I do is wrong. She even questions if there's a hole in the teat of the cup I recently bought...Hello, didnt you see the water streaming out of his mouth yesterday?
Been thinking and pondering... is it time for Irwin and I to move out? It has been on my mind lately. Yet Irwin feels that the in-laws need us at this point. If we cannot get along, are we supposed to pretend that everything is fine, and lead on a daily life like this? Sometimes I dont take it personal. It seems like MIL just likes to talk to her own kids like that too. It seems like she has a ego and likes to put, even her own kids down sometimes. I wasn't brought up like this and I am not used to this style.
Don't get me wrong. I am not being ungrateful here. I know that every comfort here is provided for, and I lead a rather stress free life in terms of home management. But it just seems to be getting ugly. I thought of staying put because I think this is the best outcome for Theodore, as I dont want to leave TD alone with a helper at home only. But there is too much unhappiness... Will I be in luck to be guided to the right path? He is my kid, and I want to bring him up the way I want to.
MIL likes to call Teddy the RTC boy, as we have been going to RTC every weekend with Teddy. We agreed right from the beginning that we want Teddy to grow up to be humble. Irwin and I now have a bet, if MIL calls TD RTC boy again, I win a $100!..jokes aside, what do I need to do just that it is win-win for all? particulary Teddy boy...... ;(
2 comments:
Hi there,
I totally understand what are you going through.Its never ez to stay under the same roof. I bet all of us quarrelled with our own parents and siblings before we moved out right? Its abt the same, the only differece being a daughter in law is tougher than being a daughter because as a daughter we so-called has this immunity medal. Haha.
My own personal view, get Theodore to attend playgrp when he turns 18mth and if your job is flexi enuff to allow u to pick Theodore on time, u can consider moving out.
I believe the comfort of nt having to worry abt hsehold matters indeed throw u into comfort zone..but didn't it come across your mind that home mgt is a woman's job too? I don't have a chance to play this role because of several reasons but I believe that it all started with me moving in rather this house was set up by both of us.
I am nt sure if my view is right since I haven had a kid yet, I am staying with my MIL who needed our care. At times, I wish if the world is just the 2 of us. At times, I am glad i m debt free. I never stay contented.
There's always pros and cons for every move/decision that you are going to make. Think again!
At the end of day, nothg beats having Theodore as ur kid!
Cheers!
Connie
whoa thanks for putting the time to write!
good point about home management being a woman's role!
on the other end, I think in-laws would be disappointed if they hear that we have thoughts of moving out...so that is one point to be sensitive about as well....
yes, my focus is Theodore now...hopefully all will come to good sense because of him =)
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